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Who’s Carrying What? Mental Load Splitter

Chores are visible. Ownership is not. Map the invisible stages behind family life and see where complete responsibility is actually sitting.

Want to see exactly how the 40 stage-level responses are converted into the estimate? Read the scoring methodology and limitations.

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Who’s Carrying What? Mental Load Splitter

For each responsibility, choose who notices, plans, does, remembers and follows up. Your result estimates each person’s share of the invisible load.

Meals & groceries

School & activities

Appointments & health

Laundry & clothing

Household supplies

Family calendar & logistics

Emotional check-ins

Forms, bills & family admin